Many will celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday this coming Thursday. If we were still back in our home state we would be rushing around trying to make time to get to all the family dinners, or at least to get some of us to most of them. This year was different, as I know many of the holidays will be from now on.
There was no Macy’s Day Parade on the television as I prepared the turkey and the ham. There was no football game in the afternoon. There were no store ads out on the table for my mom, my oldest daughter, and I to look though to see what “deals” we could score early on Black Friday. No, instead it looked as if it was a typical Saturday morning at our new home. You see, with my husband’s new job he will only have Thursday off for Thanksgiving. So traveling with the five Littles to make it to everyone’s dinners and then back so he can go to work on Friday will not happen. We decided to have dinner early here with the hopes that family and friends could come down and celebrate with us. Plans we make don’t always workout the way you want them to however.
We had planned on our oldest son being here, my brother and his kids, our parents, a dear friend and her kids, and our daughter along with her boyfriend. As time got closer one by one they had things come up. People got sick, the snow and wind where heading their way so they were afraid to travel, and other personal things came up all of which caused our dinner to shrink in size. I started to realize being out of state now meant starting new traditions. I was upset and felt alone that everyone was cancelling but completely understood life happens and somethings you just can’t help. As for my family if we were going to have dinner with my husband Saturday was still the day so plans continued.
On Friday our oldest daughter and her boyfriend showed up late in the evening. She decided to come after class instead of waiting till Saturday morning to drive down. She somehow always senses when I need her the most. Just having her here made my weekend. We spent a few minutes catching up and then we all called it a night. Saturday I was awakened my excited little loves who were eager to see thier sissy. I went downstairs and started preparing our dinner. We spent to morning making pecan pie, Turkey, ham, mashpotatos, mamaw Smiths classic noodles, and all the fixings for a traditional family Thanksgiving. Sis and her boyfriend jumped right in to help. It was nice having them help. Seeing them together, young and in love, made me happy. I am happy she has found someone to make her smile again. We cooked and then Lissa led us in prayer as we sat down to eat. Looking around our table I could not help but be thankful. The Littles were so happy their sissy was home and the made up with her boyfriend nicely. (Still not sure he knows what to think of our whole crew lol)
There was no pro football Saturday only college games that we skipped through until my husband found a NASCAR race on the TV. We enjoyed a relaxing evening at home in front of the fireplace. Sunday we got up and headed to church where we were blessed with a service on Love. We headed home and had lunch then my husband surprised me. He knows I always put up our Christmas tree Thanksgiving day evening, we celebrate one holiday at a time here. And he knew that Sis would not be with us on Thursday. He asked me to ask her to watch the kids for a few minutes. She agreed and we went into town. Our Christmas tree that we have had for years did not survive last Christmas. Our three little boys, love their hearts, thought they could climb it (in their minds it was a tree therefore it could be climbed……it could not) My husband explained he knew I was bummed that our plans did not workout like we had hoped and he knew something that would cheer me up. He wanted me to pick out our new Christmas tree. He had been out a few days earlier and thought about getting one, but wanted me to find the perfect one for our new home. We looked at many different ones. Some with white lights, some with multi-colored lights, some round and full, some thin, some really tall and some really some. We decided on a 7 and a half foot full tree with white lights. I was happy. The very idea my husband bought something Christmas related before December 1st is nothing short of a miracle.
When we got home he done the unthinkable. He told me we could go ahead and put the tree up. He said seeing we had already had our Thanksgiving dinner and he knows our tree goes up Thanksgiving evening it was time. Husband of the year award right there. Sis got the ornaments ready while we put the tree together. Then just as in years past our kids (with a little help from their sissy and mommy) decorated the tree. Their faces were priceless. The excitement in the house was delightful. Having our daughter here to help out one more year was priceless. Not going to lie I shed a few happy tears. My heart was full.
So this year, though different in many ways, was definitely wonderful. We may not have had the parade on TV, or the football game, or everyone here, but thanks to my husband we where able to keep the tradition of decorating our tree and start a new tradition. We now have a book we all wrote in. The idea is simple all I asked was for everyone to write something they are thankful for. Years down the road it will be fun to look back at the pages and revisit the things we are thankful for now. Change is not always easy, more times than not we have to move past the pain and embrace the memories of what was and continue to move forward. I was not sure how our first Thanksgiving would go being away from everyone. I am truly thankful for our daughter and my husband for going above and beyond make sure we (especially me) had a great holiday. I am so thankful for all they do for our family. Did I miss my family and friends not being here, yes yes I did. I miss them daily. Family is everything to me. However I know that the world does not revolve around me and that life happens and plans change. New traditions are God’s way of saying life goes on. Embrace the new and cherish the memories from years past. We all have so much to be thankful for don’t waste time being miserable about things that are out of your control.
From our beautiful chaos to yours embrace your family traditions both old and new. Be thankful for the time giving to us to share these memories with our loved ones. Change is not always easy but it can be beautiful.