Well I did it again, well almost. I let myself get caught up in the fake world of social media parenting. You may know what I’m talking about. Thankfully I was able to snap out of it before I started questioning my parenting skills.
We all have people on our sites that seem to have it all together. Their kids take the perfect family photos, they make the honor roll every semester, they go to the store and their kids are perfect little angels, their homes always spotless and clutter free, they go on lavish trips for vacations or take cruises multiple times a year. Their kids are perfect in every way. They are the perfect parents. When I use to see post like this I could not help but question my own mom skills. I would look around at my beautiful chaos and think were did I go wrong? What are they doing that I’m not? I would beat myself up about not being the perfect mom. But you know what, I don’t do that anymore. Here’s why
I am the best mom I can be. My kids are the best kids they can be. And news flash no one is perfect. I gave up on having the perfect family photo a long time ago. Trying to get five little ones to sit still and face the camera is hard enough let alone trying to get them all to show me their adorable smiles at the same time. Our family photos have them being kids. Someone is always looking off in the wrong direction or someone has dirt or candy on their face. And you know what, I love my family photos. To me they are perfect.
My kids play hard from the time they wake up till the time they go to bed. So we have toys everywhere. My house is never “spotless.” If that’s what you are expecting when you come to visit please don’t come over.
The truth is we are all doing our best at this parenting thing. We should not feel guilty or upset with ourselves when someone else seems to have it all together. We all have bad days but we also all have great days. Don’t compare yourself to the mom down the road or to the mom at football practice. You, YES YOU, are doing a great job.
So if you’re the mom who makes a five star breakfast every morning or you’re the mom who serves Cheerios and pop tarts. You are amazing.
If you’re the mom that makes it to every PTA/PTO meeting at school and serve as the homeroom mom or if you’re the mom that just sends in the snacks or cash when asked. You are wonderful.
If you’re the mom who takes your kids to Disney or the beach for vacation or if you’re the mom who blows up the kiddy pool for the backyard oasis for the stay at home vacation. You rock.
If you’re the mom who makes sure your child is spotless or if you’re the mom who let’s your kids play in the mud. You are fantastic.
If you’re the mom who homeschools or the mom who pays for private school or the mom who uses public schools. You are changing the world.
If you’re the mom the works outside the home or if you’re the stay at home mom. You are beautiful.
If you’re the mom that does crafts everyday or if you’re the mom that slips the kids an IPad. You are doing great.
If you’re the biological mom,or the step mom, or the foster mom, or the kinship mom. If you have one child or ten or if you have a newborn, toddler, teenager, or an adult “child”. You are loved and so needed.
If you’re a mom that ever questions her worth just look at your children. They are beautiful, they are loved, and they are happy. They might not always see eye to eye with you and that’s okay. (On those days I keep a Dr Pepper and chocolate on hand) It’s okay to have bad days every now and then. Truth be told there are days I feel I fail my kids miserably. But God placed these little loves with me for a reason. He saw something in me that I do not see. He in trusted me with their lives and I will do my best to be the best I can be.
We are all in this together. Parenting is hard. Be happy for each other. Don’t let yourself get pulled into the world of “how I should be a better mom look at her” that social media beats in our heads. You are a good mom. So post those pics of your kid covered in mud, or the ones were they have turned the playroom upside down, or the family photo were little Johnny is picking his nose. Those photos make your family perfect. Those photos make you are terrific mom.
From our beautiful chaos to yours we moms have to stick together. We should Build each other up not tear others down